Choose Carefully

 I hate the Proverbs 31 woman. Okay, maybe hate is a strong word but most days she just makes me feel like a failure. Verse 10 does sort of give us an out though.

"A wife of noble character who can find?"

Apparently she's hard to find. 

But that's not what I want to talk about today. Let's take a look at verse 16.

"She considers a field and buys it..."

Consider means "to think about carefully." So why did she "consider" this field before she bought it? I can think of three possible questions she might have asked herself.

1. Can I effectively cultivate this field with my present resources?
2. Will I have the time and energy to manage more acreage?
3. Will this field allow me to bless more people?

Women are notorious for overextending ourselves. We try to be everything to everybody and wind up burning out and being no good to anyone.

I think the Proverbs 31 woman is trying to tell us that we need to carefully consider what adding more things to our plate will accomplish. We need to ask ourselves who or what might suffer by adding these extra responsibilities. 

There have been many times in my life where I really wanted to get involved in something but I had to weigh how taking up more of my time would affect my family. How much time away from home would this require? Would I have the energy needed to care for my kids? What would be the cost financially or emotionally? 

Often I had to wait years before being able to participate in some of the things I desired. There are still a few things on my bucket list and I am hopeful that I can accomplish some of them now that I have retired from the job that demanded much of my time and energy. God knows the desires of my heart. If I can wait until such time as these things can be excellent, instead of just good, God will be able to use it for His glory so much better. 

I'm still not ready to be best friends with the Proverbs 31 woman but I might take a closer look at her lifestyle now. Except maybe for that part about getting up while it's still dark to provide food for her family. I don't do breakfast...

Underrowers

Did this title peak your curiousity? Never heard of an underrower? Now you're really curious? Read on...

 In 1 Corinthians 4:1, Paul refers to himself and Apollos as "mere servants of Christ." The Greek word for servant used here is "huperetes." No, I don't know how to pronounce it but broken down it looks like this:

hupo means "under" and eretes means "rower." Huperetes literally means "underrower." 

Being the "word nerd" that I am, I wanted to know where this word came from and why Paul was using it to describe himself and his colleague. Here's what I found out:

It goes back to the warships of their time and referred to the men who were in the bowels of the boat, chained to one of several benches, rowing as though their life depended on it, In fact, their lives usually did depend on it. There are a number of things to note about the position these men held.

The lowest deck of the ship was not a pleasant place to be. It was dark, dirty and hot. They couldn't see where they were going and had to completely rely on the captain for direction. They had to row together and be perfectly in sync with the other rowers or they weren't going anywhere. 

Real world application? I believe Paul had a really good reason to use this particular word to describe our job as Christians. Whether it be our family, our job and especially our church, we are called to be "underrowers." I see three definite applications for us.

1. Rowers don't build up muscle by rowing downstream.
• Having to row upstream creates the strength needed to be an effective rower. There's going to be difficult times in our lives but this is how God builds our spiritual muscles. 
2. Rowers must be in sync with each other and that takes concentrated effort. 
• The "rowing master" shouted the instructions to the "bow officer" who relayed instructions further down the ship and the "piper" kept time by playing an instrument like a flute. If any of these positions failed in their duties, the ship was going nowhere. So it is with Christians. If we fail to do our part, the Kingdom of God goes nowhere. 
3. Rowers had each other's backs.
• There were usually 3-7 men to each oar. If anyone got sick or was weaker, the others could pick up the slack and keep going. As Christians, we are to be encouragers to each other so in times of weakness, our strength can come from "rowing" together for the cause. 

Being an underrower may not be pretty or easy but God never guaranteed us pretty and easy. Like Paul and Apollos; we are to be "mere servants of Christ." Underrowers. Grab that oar and let's start rowing!

Words to Live By

I was recently watching an interview that Andy Stanley did with his dad, Dr. Charles Stanley. He made this statement that stopped me in my tracks. 

"Obey God, leave all the consequences to Him." 

Words to live by for sure but read it again and let it sink in. I'll wait...

Sounds simple enough. But really?

Let's say you are doing what you believe God has called you to do when things start to take a turn for the worse. People are saying negative things about you and to you. The ripple affect seems to be getting bigger and bigger. You know in your heart that you have made the right decisions, said the truth, followed God's will so why does the future look so grim?

"Obey God..." But Lord I did what I believed was your will and look where it got me.  

"...leave all the consequences to Him." But Lord, what if those who have wronged me get away with it? How can I make sure the truth gets to everyone who has heard these negative things? 

"...leave all the consequences to Him." I heard you the first time but shouldn't I be doing my part to fix this? But, but, but...

It is our human nature to want to fix the wrongs in our lives. And being the created beings that we are, God knows that is our nature. He knows our instinct is to fight back, defend our reputations, seek revenge. 

How freeing would it be for us to fully embrace this concept of leaving all the consequences to Him? Imagine the peace we could experience if we truly believed all things would be made right by God alone, without our help or interference. 

Our world right now seems to be in a downward spiral. Truth has been turned upside down and we are constantly being pressured to accept what we know to be against God's laws as good and right. 

"The Lord is known by his acts of justice; the wicked are ensnared by the work of their hands." Psalm 9:16

Some things might not be made right this side of heaven but I've read the end of the Book. We win. Our job is to obey; the rest is in His hands.  Amen!

When God is Silent

 A number of years ago, I had a bizarre episode with a headache that came on suddenly. It would intensify to a 10 pain level within seconds. At first, it would go away after a few minutes but this went on for a couple of weeks and the pain stayed longer and longer each time until I was completely incapacitated. 

The timing of these headaches was the worst it could be as it started the week before our teacher orientation days began and continued into the first week of school. This headache didn't have the same symptoms as a migraine so it was hard to find a treatment that worked. During those two weeks, I saw an urgent care doctor, a chiropractor, a massage therapist, my PCP, an ER doctor, a spine specialist and a headache specialist. I had a CT scan, 2 MRIs, a Botox injection in my neck, and a lumbar puncture. I tried six new medications and...

I tried to pray. 

I couldn't focus or concentrate so my prayers were pretty lame. Fortunately, I had others who were praying for me at school, church and my family. 

But God was not answering. And it was frustrating. Didn't He know that I was responsible for getting all these teachers and students off to a good start at school? I had a job to do...an important one I believed. 

Ironically, I had started a new Bible study around this time about discerning the voice of God. Ironic because God was being extremely quiet. Hearing His voice seemed impossible. This Bible study sent me to the book of Habakkuk. Who reads Habakkuk? Once I finally located it in the Bible, the very first verse caught my attention.

"How long, O Lord, must I call for help, but you do not listen?" (Hab 1:2a)

I might not have said those exact words but they were pretty close to what I was thinking. I had to look around for context and discovered that Habakkuk was complaining about the unchecked evil that was being allowed to go on around him.

Reading on..."Why do you make me look at injustice? Why do you tolerate wrong? Destruction and violence are before me; there is strife, and conflict abounds." (Hab 1:3)

There's a lot going on in the world right now that seems to be paralleling what Habakkuk was complaining about. That's why this episode in my life story caught my attention. Not because I need to complain but because of God's answer.

"Look at the nations and watch--and be utterly amazed. For I am going to do something in your days that you would not believe, even if you were told." (Hab. 1:5) 

"For the revelation awaits an appointed time; it speaks of the end and will not prove false. Though it linger, wait for it; it will certainly come and will not delay." (Hab 2:3)

Watch and wait. 

He may be silent but He is always working. And though it may not be obvious to us, He promises we'll be amazed. 

And just because you may be curious, the headaches mysteriously disappeared as mysteriously as they appeared after a group of my church girlfriends laid their hands on me and prayed. 

Amazing, right?